Okay! In Reality a heart break is hard,But its not impossible. All the pain, the heartbreak , the suffering, the sleepless nights, the lack of peace, the betrayal is not going to vanish immediately but Life has to go on… Its important that you take care of yourself, your happiness, your health. Don’t waste your time crying over somebody who is not worth your tears. Forget it and MOVE ON..
“Someday, one of your friends is gonna get divorced, it’s gonna happen, and they’re gonna tell you. Don’t go, ‘ohhhh I’m sorry.’ That’s a stupid thing to say. First of all you’re making ’em feel bad for being really happy, which isn’t fair. And second of all: divorce is always good news. I know that sounds weird, but it’s true, because no good marriage has ever ended in divorce. It’s really that simple.”
~~~Louis C.K.
Here is how you are going to move on…
1. Take you own time to heal.
There is no time limit to get over someone. Probably your friends are insisting that you must be over them in no time. But don’t force your feeling to end too early,it’ll just be worse. Let your feelings take it’s sweet own time to go away. Its not whining.It’s healthy. Anyone who calls that whining has forgotten what breaking up with someone is like.
2. Do not blame yourself
It’s not your fault. It wasn’t that you weren’t good enough for him /her in any way. There is no such thing. Nobody is good enough for anybody. Don’t blame yourself and put yourself in misery.
3.Do not blame them as well!
Sometimes it’s not their fault. At least they put an end to it, instead of leading you on. So, just be happy that your done with all the games and this will be the last misery. Don’t blame anybody in the process, It’s of no use. If he/she lost you its their loss. That’s it.
4.Cut off all social media ties
Sometimes you block him/her in all social and social media ties in order to fully move on. I know that makes it look like you “care too much” “you might look like a loser ” or whatever, but trust me, it’s better than texting him when you’re lonely.
5.Get Rid of Things That Remind of Him/Her.
Throw them away, burn it, flush it.. Do anything that makes you feel better but make sure you get rid of all the smallest things possible. Yes yes! I understand they are cute and expensive but what is more important is, it will remind you of that person every time you look at it, at least until you get over them. So throw it away or keep it in the deepest corner of the store room.
6. No drunk communication: A STRICT NO!!!!!!!!
No texting, No GChatting, No Nothing. Delete their contact, If you’ve memorized his number, in which case you tell your friends not to give your phone to you every time you get drunk. Unfortunately, This might be really really hard and you might cry your heart out and want to vent your feeling to him but REMEMBER you will regret in the morning. We don’t want that right?
7. Don’t take your wrath out on his new girlfriend
She is a complete stranger to you It’s bad karma. If you must have the two-second thought that her hair looks flat and her Twitter isn’t funny, fine, I know sometimes you need to. But lashing out at women who have done nothing wrong, is not who you are.
8.Make more time for friends & family
Utilize this time that you are upset with your loved ones, they will show the love you’d deserve and you won’t feel so miserable.Trust me. Keep yourself busy with the people who love you and then you’ll see the world is not so mean after all.
9. Feel Relieved
People should be congratulating you for getting out of an unhealthy relationship, and you should feel sort of relieved, really.You learn from the process, now you know what you want and what you don’t want in your next relationship.
9.Turning the breakup emotions into a positive drive
So what if you had a bad break up? You have only grown stronger and make the most of it. Do what ever you always wanted to do. Rather than drinking ,smoking or finding a rebound .Pull yourself together and do productive things which will make you happy. By drinking , smoking or sleeping with random people you are only self destructing yourself, this will only make you feel even worse. So Dont do it.
10.Most Importantly: Don’t be afraid to fall in love again
Its very important that you don’t blame love all the men/women for what had happen. Every one is different. May be it was just not meant to happen.This doesn’t mean the next person who you meet in life is going to put you through the same situation. Your worth is not tied to another person. No matter who they are.It didn’t work because it wasn’t right. This is the most important lesson, because it’ll help you move on and find a partner who is right for you.
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