We meet a lot of people in our day to day life. Everyday new people & we come across strangers who become friends,colleagues & even family. But do we like everyone who we meet? Maybe or maybe not!! Maybe we have to go through these people everyday of our life. It can be your boss, your colleague, your uncle, aunt, old school mate , just anybody.

If you like them. Yes! good for them and good for you. If not? How to deal with them? How not to show them that your not happy seeing them or just how to be around someone like that? It can be hard! sometimes so frustrating that it leaves you worried & sick!

But, Its not necessary to trouble ourselves so much. We can manage to be happy around them and make the best use of them.

Here is how….

 

1. Take a deep breath when something bothers you.

You will come across people who will annoy the s*** out of you & talks bullshit and provoke you to beat them up.We totally get it. You just want to wack  their face off when they push it too much. But, WAIT!!! take a deep deep breath, and tell yourself “It’s OKAY”.

According to Kathleen Bartle (a California-based conflict consultant) ,“If you can pause and get a grip on your adrenaline pump and go to the intellectual part of your brain, you’ll be better able to have a conversation and to skip over the judgment.”

This will help you not to overreact at that situation and keep you and the place at peace.

 

2. You need to accept that It’s okay not to like everyone.

We are not saints, we are going to be the nice person we are even if we don’t like someone. We don’t like them for a reason (May be not!!) but it is okay, because its a feeling.. He/she might not necessarily be a bad person, but you have your differences. we cannot always control what we feel and even if we do we ain’t gaining anything back just because we force ourself to like someone.

 

3. Bare with those you don’t like.

Well! it might be just you and few others who don’t like that person, but they might be in a position where they are doing good for the firm or family. So, you might probably need them, so you need to bare with the kind of things you don’t like them doing or just bare with them when you are around. It’s not like you are going to be stuck with them throughout your life  anyway ,at some point you are going to get rid of that person. So just wait it out.

4. Treat them good.

“Cultivating a diplomatic poker face is important. You need to be able to come across as professional and positive,” says Ben Dattner, an organizational psychologist and author of The Blame Game. You might not like them , but remember with anyone will behave the same with you how you treat them. If they treat you bad. Don’t take it to your head and reach to their level and treat them the same way. Be composed and let them not bother you.

5. Confront your needs.

If those people always interrupt you or bother you with a certain things,It can be a genuine reason(mistake) or on purpose, you’ll never know. So, confront them, tell them what you feel about what they did. Don’t use abusive language, tell them calmly like “When you . . . I feel . . .”  For example, Cacaiola advises you to tell that person, “When you cut me off in meetings, I feel like you don’t value my contributions.”. This way they might try avoiding it the next time which will not provoke you.

6. Keep yourself away from them.

Even after all the trying and changes that you made. If they still bother you. Maintain a space between you and them. You don’t want any trouble and headache because of someone you don’t like. You just don’t want them around you. Keep far far far distance from them.